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Thanks a lot. I lost my father just a month before his 53rd birthday. One of seven, I was 13. Alcoholism pervasive in my family. Unbeknownst to me, it shattered my world in every decision I made or situation I walked into. Now at 72, I’ve settled down for 25 years with a man I cherish. In recovery 37 years.

Thank you for loving your children. It’s the most important work you can do.

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Thank you Andrew for this. It’s beautiful.

I have tension with two adult daughters right now. They don’t know what they don’t know but they think they do. The details are not important but it is what you just described. As a man my delivery of “reality” doesn’t always land. Sometimes it backfires and creates hostility . Living it right now and it is heart-breaking.

Much appreciated.

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This is my worry, though I imagine this is my future.

I don't see it being a forever thing though, God willing.

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it's not just the personal. The cultural rot has gotten everywhere. the most unnecessary divisions have been wedged in to so many families and friendships.

It's not forever, a reckoning is of course inevitable.

God is willing and he is there.

so is suffering. It's rough out there these days.

We're meant to go through this for a greater purpose, I know that also.

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Wonderful lessons Dad, for people of every age and stage of life, cudos

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Two grown daughters here, and childhood me, the only girl in a family full of boys. Talk about growth opportunities!

Your kids are fortunate to have a father who can articulate (or at least try to) what he's feeling.

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The need to love is great in my heart. Thankful for discernment and reconciliation.

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I love my son. Proud of him. My daughter though, it's a different kind of love I can't describe.

Often we'll all go back and forth telling each other we love each other. Dad isn't big on saying the L word but he showed it when I was a kid in his sacrificing for us.

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As you grow and learn and teach, I hope you’re able to instill in your young girls the. Power of their wildness and the need to harness it. It’s their creativity and yours too.

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This was beautifully said, thank you. Just about hitting the teen years over here with my oldest and I will come back to this wisdom again. Furthermore; this has given me great compassion for my own father, beyond what I already felt when looking backwards to my own tumultuous teen years.

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