When our 4 y/o son was diagnosed with diabetes, there was more than a little "brave face" as we adjusted to the new reality.
When my mother died a year and a half ago, I didn't brave face it. Knowing they'll face the same pain someday, I felt I needed to be open in order to forewarn them. More than that, they are my closest friends, after their mother. I leaned on them and their bored me up.
'It shows that you’re human, and it’s okay to struggle.'
Yeah, agreed. Putting on an inauthentic facade is definitely counterproductive and can very well backfire.
When our 4 y/o son was diagnosed with diabetes, there was more than a little "brave face" as we adjusted to the new reality.
When my mother died a year and a half ago, I didn't brave face it. Knowing they'll face the same pain someday, I felt I needed to be open in order to forewarn them. More than that, they are my closest friends, after their mother. I leaned on them and their bored me up.
Great advice! Love your guidebook Andrew. Folks might want to know, there is a mental yoga for emotional control. https://dianekern.substack.com/p/raja-yoga
Do you still talk to your sons?
We're going to pass along our good as well as our bad.
What's cool though, it seems, we don't necessarily stop doing that after they've left the nest.
I hope.
I know my Dad is still passing along lessons to me.
Wonderful, Dean.
How did you get to a point of self-awareness that allowed you to WANT to improve the family life you had and the one you gave your sons?
Most of us assume what we had is all there is.
Sounds like you have already given them more than you got yourself.
Hell yeah.