You Are Lost, Not Broken
We find what we seek and we see what we believe. If you believe you're worthless, you'll find every reason it's true, even when those reasons are wrong.
Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves.
Make Quiet The Negative, Bring Yourself Forward
The world is dark and full of danger. It’s chaotic and everything is in turmoil. During these times, when your mind is roiling and scattered, you tell yourself “Something is wrong with me. I’m broken. I’m worthless and I’m stupid. I’m selfish and angry. I’m a piece of shit.”
These thoughts will break you. You manifest what you believe. You believe what you think. There is a trick to getting rid of those thoughts. It’s deep and difficult, however.
Tell your brain or your thoughts to keep that shit to itself. Shut the heck up, in short. “Hey brain, go play in traffic if you keep this up.”
That’s what I do. I tend to be rougher and more vulgar than that, but my grandma reads these so….
Admittedly that doesn’t always work, but I must shake those thoughts. They’re bull… spit. Yeah, bullspit. We find what we’re looking for, even when it isn’t really there. There are excuses and concessions and rationalizations made to make things that don’t fit appear to fit.
“Find a round peg, there is at least one.”
“Hey, this peg is round!”
“But it has flat edges. How is that round?”
“It fits into this round hole. It’s round.”
“It fits because it’s smaller than the hole, that doesn’t mean it’s round.”
“IT’S F*&#@ ROUND!”
That’s the basic concept.
You are what you believe. You find what you seek. You are not broken, all is not lost, you are just hurting. You will find things wrong with you if you only look for what's wrong, even when they don't exist.
You'll find reasons they're negative or bad because you believe something is wrong. You aren't perfect, there is something wrong, but perhaps it's your mindset.
As we journey through the ebbs and flows of life, it's essential to pause and ponder on this idea: Our beliefs are not just idle thoughts; they are the architects of our reality.
It's a curious thing about the human mind; it often finds exactly what it's looking for. Like a gardener who tends to roses yet only sees the thorns, if we solely focus on our flaws, our garden of self-worth withers. The mind is a powerful magnifier – whatever we choose to view through its lens, be it good or bad, gets amplified.
Consider this: When you search for what's wrong within you, it's like walking through a gallery of distorted mirrors. Every reflection seems to confirm that something is amiss. But, these mirrors don't show reality; they reflect the shadows of your beliefs.
Now, let's be clear: recognizing that you are hurting isn't the same as believing you are broken. Pain is a universal human experience, a transient season in the grand scheme of your life's story. It doesn't define you. It's a chapter, not the entire book.
To say, "I am hurting" is to acknowledge your current state, a state as changeable as the weather. But to say, "I am broken" is to mistake the weather for the climate, a temporary storm for a permanent condition. Remember, all is not lost; you are navigating through a challenging chapter, not an unending narrative.
Keep in mind, embracing imperfection is not an admission of defeat; it's an acceptance of reality. Yes, there is something 'wrong,' if you will, but often, it's not what you think. It's not a flaw in your character or a fault in your being. It's perhaps a mindset that needs shifting, a perspective that requires adjusting.
Your mindset is the pair of glasses through which you view the world. If the lenses are smudged with negative beliefs, the world appears bleak. The task then is not to change the scenery but to clean the lenses, to challenge and change the beliefs that cloud your vision.
The path forward is one of gentle reassurance and introspection. It's about slowly replacing the "I am broken" narrative with "I am growing." It's about shifting focus from what you believe is wrong with you to what is right, from flaws to strengths, from shadows to light.
In this journey, kindness to yourself is paramount. It's about learning to speak to yourself with the same compassion you would offer a dear friend. It's about realizing that growth is a process, and every step, no matter how small, is progress.
You are not what you've been through; you're what you choose to become. Your beliefs are the compass that guides you, and by changing them, you can change your course. You are what you believe, and belief is the first step toward any transformation.
So, believe in your ability to grow, to heal, to change. Believe in the light at the end of the tunnel, even when it's not yet visible. And most importantly, believe in your inherent worth, for that is the truth that will set you free.
With Love,
Dad
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