A bit like listening to a wife talk about a problem. First instinct is to fix it when she is, perhaps, just needing an opportunity to work it out herself. Kids need that same space?
>>This reflex, though rooted in our deep love and concern,
I can't say I completely understand the specific situation you are dealing with here, but if I am reading it right, this reflex is rooted in... responsibility. Assuming that I do bear some guilt, I have done something wrong, then one part of what I should be doing is to examine my parenting in order to improve it.
A bit like listening to a wife talk about a problem. First instinct is to fix it when she is, perhaps, just needing an opportunity to work it out herself. Kids need that same space?
>>This reflex, though rooted in our deep love and concern,
I can't say I completely understand the specific situation you are dealing with here, but if I am reading it right, this reflex is rooted in... responsibility. Assuming that I do bear some guilt, I have done something wrong, then one part of what I should be doing is to examine my parenting in order to improve it.