This is one of those things that, while important, takes a lot of time, effort and self reflection. Even with those things, it is easy for me to come up short!
It's easy for me. I only fail like, once or twice an hour each day.
It's certainly a journey and one I doubt has any perceivable ending. I struggle with it often.
There are even times I am aware of emotions that are undesirable yet for one reason or another it's difficult for me to WANT to regulate or modify the emotion/s.
Which brings me to believe that anger and frustration etc can be, at times, far easier and more desirable than peace, understanding, and happiness.
It occurs to me that those emotions allow excuses and denial, they provide the path to avoid and lead away from the one of acceptance.
So, given that, some of my issues and I'd imagine the issues of others, though how many others I cannot know, may be due to self-inflicted or self-imposed discontent. That discontent being used to avoid the truth or to avoid an advantage or a reason to do, say, or feel something that isn't good for us or others.
A discontent that, at the time, seems easier and more desirable than regulation, reconciliation, recognition, and acceptance.
Emotions are annoying and complicated. The more I think about them and reflect the more I come to find I don't enjoy them.
But then I see the faces of my children and remember why I still have them.
I'll deal with the frustrations, the failures and the shortfalls, the mistakes and regrets just to remember what it feels like to look at my kids.
This is one of those things that, while important, takes a lot of time, effort and self reflection. Even with those things, it is easy for me to come up short!
It's easy for me. I only fail like, once or twice an hour each day.
It's certainly a journey and one I doubt has any perceivable ending. I struggle with it often.
There are even times I am aware of emotions that are undesirable yet for one reason or another it's difficult for me to WANT to regulate or modify the emotion/s.
Which brings me to believe that anger and frustration etc can be, at times, far easier and more desirable than peace, understanding, and happiness.
It occurs to me that those emotions allow excuses and denial, they provide the path to avoid and lead away from the one of acceptance.
So, given that, some of my issues and I'd imagine the issues of others, though how many others I cannot know, may be due to self-inflicted or self-imposed discontent. That discontent being used to avoid the truth or to avoid an advantage or a reason to do, say, or feel something that isn't good for us or others.
A discontent that, at the time, seems easier and more desirable than regulation, reconciliation, recognition, and acceptance.
Emotions are annoying and complicated. The more I think about them and reflect the more I come to find I don't enjoy them.
But then I see the faces of my children and remember why I still have them.
I'll deal with the frustrations, the failures and the shortfalls, the mistakes and regrets just to remember what it feels like to look at my kids.