This is very similar to a lesson I gave to the young men at church a few years ago, about how sometimes the hardest person to forgive is yourself. Too many hold onto mistakes they made, well after it has stopped being productive to do so.
I find it helpful to ask myself something along the lines of, "If the roles were reversed, and someone else made the effort I made to make it right, make amends, apologize, etc, would I feel justified still being angry with them?" If the answer is a clear no, why am I still angry or upset with myself?
This is very similar to a lesson I gave to the young men at church a few years ago, about how sometimes the hardest person to forgive is yourself. Too many hold onto mistakes they made, well after it has stopped being productive to do so.
I find it helpful to ask myself something along the lines of, "If the roles were reversed, and someone else made the effort I made to make it right, make amends, apologize, etc, would I feel justified still being angry with them?" If the answer is a clear no, why am I still angry or upset with myself?
Always easier said than done.