I can make habits quiet well. But over the time when my motivation starts to dwindle because I get bored doing one same thing I leave it in the middle! So, sadly I have to find ways to show me some perks to hold onto.
I guess it is different for everyone even though we are in the same boat!
That has the gears turning, I hadn't thought of it that way before. New perspectives get me excited, but sometimes the thoughts are a bit crazy so bear with me here and forgive me if it turns out to be gibberish. I won't know until I get it out (and considering I try and show my work, even if they're mistakes or failures, I'll likely keep everything as is).
Okay, so you're at least proficient at habituation, that appears to be the bare minimum (let me know if that's incorrect).
However, as time goes on and the doldrum of the day to day turn the habituated activities from exciting to standard to plain to boring and a chore.
How do you start making those habits, though? Presumably there's motivation to start, and I think I can assume that's correct given the conversation as it stands. That motivation likely rests on or is started by thinking about the benefits the habit will offer now and for future you.
So this sounds, and of course this is a guess, like the original purpose of the habit may have been forgotten or, over time, ignored. And the monotonous feature of habituation has been overblown and the benefits have been, understandably, become "trivial" in your perception of them.
For instance, when we're sick, as I am now, we understand the benefits of living healthy and taking vitamins, exercising, cleaning etc. However, when we're well, sure we appreciate some healthy living, but it doesn't seem nearly as important if it has been a while since the last time we fell ill. Hopefully that comparison is apt. I may be biased given my current state.
I have been reading a great deal on the 3rd part of emotional intelligence, motivation. There are many ways to go about it, but one way to sustain motivation is to practice gratitude. And this may be the world record long jump with the leap I'm about to make, but it may make sense (brain is kinda cloudy).
So gratitude is, in its most basic, the ability to see things you can be thankful for and expressing thanks for them. Now, it seems to be more effective aloud and even more so when directed at someone or possibly even something (that one is iffy for me, though I lean towards the "yes" at being grateful and expressing it towards SOMETHING if nobody is around).
So if any of this makes sense, maybe when you start feeling the drudgery of continued habituation setting in, take a pause. Keep the habit up, of course, but pause and think. Think about what the habit is that you instantiated in your day to day. Then think about what the impetus in starting this habit was. Think about the benefits of the habit, and think about what it has given you in being a habit. If there's anything worthwhile and worth gratitude in there, and there likely is even at surface level, express that gratitude. Now, if you have a hard time with gratitude, much like myself, there is NOTHING wrong with starting out expressing it in your head. It's more effective, it seems, when expressed verbally and audibly, sure, but it has effects in your head nonetheless.
And, if you can't see anything worth gratitude, it may be worthwhile to do what people do in jobs they aren't quite knowledgeable about...
Fake it till you make it!
It works there and it works with gratitude too. I can say that has worked for me, at least. Sure it's anecdotal but I am only one person, that's all I can provide!
Hopefully this made sense. Advice isn't generally anything but annoying to read, so I do want to make sure it's clear that advice wasn't what i was going for here. I struggle with this too and I am simply brainstorming on how to keep habits going.
Thank you for taking time to write over this topic. I surely agree that gratitude is very crucial. As a person I am a person of gratitude but I reckon boredom and monotony has a heavy hand than gratitude in situations for me.
How do I make habits daily? I guess it was always a part of growing up. I've been a fairly obedient child of 90's - parents told us and we obeyed. They were not disciplinarian but we knew they had best in mind and there have been very few instances where I rebelled. So I don't always have a deeper meaning or a 'why,' that becomes a driving force for me. Mostly, I follow my inner instinct or the inner voice where I know this is the right thing to do. Sometimes, I do things as a habit because it is good for others. Like getting up early because family needs it. I would love to sleep otherwise.
for the sake of discussion - or may be to ponder even, if something motivates me it is others or the simple inner call. I can make heavy amendments in my life (habits) if I know someone needs me, especially family or I am convinced that I have a calling. If it has to be me, I hardly operate on motivation. I operate on habits. Which is easier.
Yea, so now I am learning to rest. Like operating that God also rested! Or to take a break from the mental boredom. As we are talking I am understanding it is not the physical output that becomes boring it is the mental fog that can affect habits. And yes may be not very consciously, but if something that has got me back on my feet is gratitude. The general disposition of thankful-ness and being aware that we have so much to do still, that brings me back to the base.
I leave and then restart again and slow down then rekindle the forces again. But as you said we all fail and we all learn. So let me just show you my gratitude and say thank you for making time to write this.
Also, once my habits are made then it is just a part of body clock, I really do not struggle there. So there are many habits I have made which were just made or have an obsolete motivation and because now I have a set habit I can find other motivations to fit into that. But some habits are made and then fizzle out plainly because I don't feel motivated enough. The egg came first or the chicken. :)
Wonderful. I have tried and failed many times to ignore discipline.
Thinking everything worthwhile should come with motivation.
Of course I was wrong. Luckily I have been wrong so much that I now have enough experience to recognize my error and change course without it being too cumbersome to do.
Perhaps that's the beginning of discipline?
I am new to it myself, so I'm still figuring it out.
I would love to have others embark on this journey with me! I doubt I will be able to find all the answers myself.
Hahaha. That is absolutely true.
Yet,
I can make habits quiet well. But over the time when my motivation starts to dwindle because I get bored doing one same thing I leave it in the middle! So, sadly I have to find ways to show me some perks to hold onto.
I guess it is different for everyone even though we are in the same boat!
That has the gears turning, I hadn't thought of it that way before. New perspectives get me excited, but sometimes the thoughts are a bit crazy so bear with me here and forgive me if it turns out to be gibberish. I won't know until I get it out (and considering I try and show my work, even if they're mistakes or failures, I'll likely keep everything as is).
Okay, so you're at least proficient at habituation, that appears to be the bare minimum (let me know if that's incorrect).
However, as time goes on and the doldrum of the day to day turn the habituated activities from exciting to standard to plain to boring and a chore.
How do you start making those habits, though? Presumably there's motivation to start, and I think I can assume that's correct given the conversation as it stands. That motivation likely rests on or is started by thinking about the benefits the habit will offer now and for future you.
So this sounds, and of course this is a guess, like the original purpose of the habit may have been forgotten or, over time, ignored. And the monotonous feature of habituation has been overblown and the benefits have been, understandably, become "trivial" in your perception of them.
For instance, when we're sick, as I am now, we understand the benefits of living healthy and taking vitamins, exercising, cleaning etc. However, when we're well, sure we appreciate some healthy living, but it doesn't seem nearly as important if it has been a while since the last time we fell ill. Hopefully that comparison is apt. I may be biased given my current state.
I have been reading a great deal on the 3rd part of emotional intelligence, motivation. There are many ways to go about it, but one way to sustain motivation is to practice gratitude. And this may be the world record long jump with the leap I'm about to make, but it may make sense (brain is kinda cloudy).
So gratitude is, in its most basic, the ability to see things you can be thankful for and expressing thanks for them. Now, it seems to be more effective aloud and even more so when directed at someone or possibly even something (that one is iffy for me, though I lean towards the "yes" at being grateful and expressing it towards SOMETHING if nobody is around).
So if any of this makes sense, maybe when you start feeling the drudgery of continued habituation setting in, take a pause. Keep the habit up, of course, but pause and think. Think about what the habit is that you instantiated in your day to day. Then think about what the impetus in starting this habit was. Think about the benefits of the habit, and think about what it has given you in being a habit. If there's anything worthwhile and worth gratitude in there, and there likely is even at surface level, express that gratitude. Now, if you have a hard time with gratitude, much like myself, there is NOTHING wrong with starting out expressing it in your head. It's more effective, it seems, when expressed verbally and audibly, sure, but it has effects in your head nonetheless.
And, if you can't see anything worth gratitude, it may be worthwhile to do what people do in jobs they aren't quite knowledgeable about...
Fake it till you make it!
It works there and it works with gratitude too. I can say that has worked for me, at least. Sure it's anecdotal but I am only one person, that's all I can provide!
Hopefully this made sense. Advice isn't generally anything but annoying to read, so I do want to make sure it's clear that advice wasn't what i was going for here. I struggle with this too and I am simply brainstorming on how to keep habits going.
Hi, I hope you get well soon.
Thank you for taking time to write over this topic. I surely agree that gratitude is very crucial. As a person I am a person of gratitude but I reckon boredom and monotony has a heavy hand than gratitude in situations for me.
How do I make habits daily? I guess it was always a part of growing up. I've been a fairly obedient child of 90's - parents told us and we obeyed. They were not disciplinarian but we knew they had best in mind and there have been very few instances where I rebelled. So I don't always have a deeper meaning or a 'why,' that becomes a driving force for me. Mostly, I follow my inner instinct or the inner voice where I know this is the right thing to do. Sometimes, I do things as a habit because it is good for others. Like getting up early because family needs it. I would love to sleep otherwise.
for the sake of discussion - or may be to ponder even, if something motivates me it is others or the simple inner call. I can make heavy amendments in my life (habits) if I know someone needs me, especially family or I am convinced that I have a calling. If it has to be me, I hardly operate on motivation. I operate on habits. Which is easier.
Yea, so now I am learning to rest. Like operating that God also rested! Or to take a break from the mental boredom. As we are talking I am understanding it is not the physical output that becomes boring it is the mental fog that can affect habits. And yes may be not very consciously, but if something that has got me back on my feet is gratitude. The general disposition of thankful-ness and being aware that we have so much to do still, that brings me back to the base.
I leave and then restart again and slow down then rekindle the forces again. But as you said we all fail and we all learn. So let me just show you my gratitude and say thank you for making time to write this.
Also, once my habits are made then it is just a part of body clock, I really do not struggle there. So there are many habits I have made which were just made or have an obsolete motivation and because now I have a set habit I can find other motivations to fit into that. But some habits are made and then fizzle out plainly because I don't feel motivated enough. The egg came first or the chicken. :)
Discipline is something I can’t ignore. Kind of moving towards understanding the balance to build my motivation over habits.
Wonderful. I have tried and failed many times to ignore discipline.
Thinking everything worthwhile should come with motivation.
Of course I was wrong. Luckily I have been wrong so much that I now have enough experience to recognize my error and change course without it being too cumbersome to do.
Perhaps that's the beginning of discipline?
I am new to it myself, so I'm still figuring it out.
I would love to have others embark on this journey with me! I doubt I will be able to find all the answers myself.